Turning 4 must have been challenging as you grabble with making sense of all that new information you are gathering as you become more aware of what’s going on around you.
You have demonstrated a new level of maturity and intelligence, asking questions like how pumping petrol works, what is considered expensive, where/which shop do i buy things, and what buying on the internet means. You have an acute ability to observe your surroundings and process the information. The very first time i was made aware of this, and i still remember distinctively, was when at 2.5 years old, you asked me who was driving the cable car.
You have a keen interest in learning. You are asking questions ALL THE TIME, want to learn how to tell the time, is now able to write birthday greetings with help in spelling, spelling simple words, speaking in Mandarin (not all the time), and you often want to help out around the house (from keeping the clean laundry to folding and putting them away). But, you are still reluctant to pick up swimming, preferring to just waddle in the baby pool and imaginary play.
You are also like a “小大人”; the things you say and the expressions that come along are simply… well, like hard ‘slaps’ to my face as that’s probably how i look when i talk to you 😒 In many ways, you are a mature and understanding child. You get it when we tell you the plans and activities for the day need to change. But yet in other circumstances, you are as stubborn as you can be, like refusing to wear black pants and would rather nap on the floor with your diapers on. Must be tough being a 4yo.
You are still extremely shy in front of friends; only being your true self at home and in school (although you do become extremely shy when mommsy and daddcy appear in school). Our friends never get to see the bubbly and chatty you. But those who do, love you! The teachers (past and present) in school, especially, love you and heaps praises!
You are a cautious child. Jumping steps and climbing walls feel like impossible tasks to you but with assurance and tireless ‘training’ from daddcy, you have somewhat conquered these fears.
You love to wear dresses and can be choosy about which dress to wear – key criteria being how much the skirt lifts up when you spin, likes princessy/hellokitty things even though mommsy tries not to expose/indulge you in them, goes on and on about how pretty you look after u put on hair clips, and likes looking in the mirror.
You have vastly improved from being a fussy eater – current faves are homecooked soup, noodles in soup with salmon and tiny tiny tiny broccoli, bolognese spaghetti, rice with chicken wing, sweet & sour fish with rice. You are eating more meat than vege.
In the past year, you also had to learn to deal with a more impatient mommsy, who like you, is learning to grapple with the new realities of juggling work and children.
Mommsy can’t help but impose certain expectations and standards on you. Part of me thinks doing so can challenge you to become more independent. But i forget, you are still just a young child. You throw tantrums and become “irritating”, but you are really just constantly seeking affirmation and love from daddcy and me.
We are learning to be parents. We hope that as your mommsy and daddcy, we have not failed you as parents, that we have not failed to let you enjoy a meaningful and fun-filled childhood.
Know that daddcy, mommsy and babyN are your safe haven. We’ll never let harm in your way. We love you, girlgirl 😘